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I'm taking a break from reviewing books and everything YA related.

It used to make me so happy and now I'm just angry all the time. I'm sick of seeing friends and fellow reviewers be smeared and bullied by anonymous cowards playing the victim card as they post personal details online and claim to be the good guys. I'm sick of people claiming I'm a bully or a jealous hater or anti-feminist because I dare to think that romanticising domestic abuse is a bad idea. I'm fucking fed up of 50 Shades of Grey and Beautiful Disaster (which just got a publishing deal with Atria, did I mention that?) and spending my time trying to get someone to understand why all this shit is so problematic and why "it's just fiction" is no excuse only to be blocked or cyber-stalked or just ignored. It's exhausting and aggravating watching the bullies and the hacks climb to the top of the tower and be heralded and rewarded for perpetuating the worst stereotypes about women, relationships and what constitutes romance while those with genuine talent and creativity are ignored. I don't want to deal with this shit for now so I'm taking a hiatus. I'm not quitting forever or anything. That'd be too easy. I just want to get some fucking perspective back and do things that make me happy for a change. 

So if anybody has any cool ideas for new hobbies or things to try out I would seriously appreciate it. I still have a few parts of the Orwell Project saved on my laptop to be posted, which I'll do in due course.


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Jul. 11th, 2012 07:09 pm (UTC)
I didn't even know Beautiful Disaster existed. I came onto twitter for something else and found what you said. I looked up the book and I can't believe this is even allowed to be published.

New hobbies: I recommend beadwork. It's easier than it looks, fascinating and very relaxing.
Jul. 11th, 2012 07:35 pm (UTC)
I am really, really sorry to hear this! I'm giving a paper on Friday citing your work on YA paranormal romances. What you've done has been a huge benefit to many other people, I'm sure, only you're hearing from the jerks instead of the appreciators. That sucks.

Plus you have been dead right about so damned much.

You just completed a major milestone and you've made some valuable contributions (for free, I might add), and if anyone deserves a vacation from bullcrap, it's you.

Let's see--something totally unrelated--what about dancing? Vintage dancing is my favorite. The historial element is cool, and it's good exercise, too.
Jul. 11th, 2012 08:19 pm (UTC)
You don't know me- but we have run into each other on ONTD
I do think that your contributions have been worthwhile, but yeah, you gotta take some time out for yourself and do you. I'd say take up either crochet or knitting. You get to play with string, and get some cool stuff out of it, like hats or granny squares.

Or, you could take up dancing, or just yoga.
Jul. 11th, 2012 08:43 pm (UTC)
Not even gonna lie, the hogwartsishome community is so much fun. I did an HP comm back in like 2007 and it wasn't fun because of drama with the headmistress, but this community is HUGE. There is so much cool stuff to do. I can't speak for the experiences in the other houses, but Hufflepuff is great craic and everyone is kind. There are club activities of all kinds and people get to talking about anything--maybe you can find a smaller, kinder audience to keep discussing problematic fiction there!

Just if you apply to be sorted there, make sure you mention my username so I get some points 8D
Jul. 11th, 2012 11:30 pm (UTC)
Hobby ideas:

aikido (great exercise + some perspective on the psychology of conflict that may help you deal with trolls)
kendo (exercise + get your aggressive ya-ya's out)
watercolor painting (local junior colleges usually have classes or you can learn from a book)
learn to play a musical instrument
Jul. 12th, 2012 04:16 am (UTC)
I recommend something that involves looking at books or movies that you enjoy. There's a LJ community called antibella, which is dedicated to honoring heroines of all different kinds. I've found hanging out there to be very therapeutic.
Jul. 12th, 2012 09:09 am (UTC)
i'm sorry you're feeling frustrated with all that stuff. i know i don't regularly comment due to major laziness, but i still like your stuff massively. i imagine this is the case for a great many of your readers.

that's the trouble with expressing your opinions on the internet about pretty much anything, those who would defend you only seem to have so much energy for you and those who would grind you down (the bastards) seem to be powered by infinite rocket fuel.

so, as for hobbies. take up sewing if you haven't already! you can make little felt poppets of the people getting you down, stuff them full of cotton and stick pins in them. or, if you're feeling creative, make them little dresses and imagine how much better people they'd be if they wore a nice floral print once in a while. it's kind of adaptable to how charitable you're feeling that day!
Diandra Linnemann
Jul. 12th, 2012 09:25 am (UTC)
I had totally missed that
And this is exactly why I do not hang out in social networks as much as I used to do. Scary people with too much time on their hands hunting down everyone whose opinion differs from their own.

Take up an offline hobby. Iceskating or hunting annoying people with an axe. Or crocheting. ^^
Jul. 12th, 2012 01:16 pm (UTC)
The options are endless. I took a week of trying new things, and one of the things I tried was a martial arts class. As you're probably aware, it's now a year later and I've essentially given up my Comedy Store life so I can train ninjutsu as much as possible. It's one of the best and most rewarding things I've ever done, and it was totally impulsive (I walked past the sign saying Martial Arts Centre on my way home one day, paused for a second, then took down the phone number. Best decision ever.)

I suggest you could do something like that. Is there an activity you've always been curious about trying? Or maybe one you've never even given a second thought before?
Jul. 12th, 2012 05:32 pm (UTC)
I agree with Pippa! You probably already have an idea of something you want to try (although I recommend arts and crafty things like the previous people, they're fun!).

And I know how you feel. Sometimes it all gets so frustrating and depressing and makes me so ANGRY that I have to stop reading about/watching politics or news for a while. Just take a break for a bit.
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